Saturday, December 7, 2019
Angry Susanne wrote this. -- Since I have made my cancer diagnosis public, I have been barraged by unsolicited cancer advice (most often from people who have never had cancer). I know people mean well, but I honestly do not care that Steve in Virginia (whom you do not know) used the vitamin you sell, and his prostate cancer went away.
I am not interested that frankincense reduces inflammation. I am not interested that turmeric reduces inflammation. I do not care that inflammation causes cancer and everything else that is wrong in my body. Would you like to know why I do not want your cancer treatment plan? MY LIFE DOES NOT REVOLVE AROUND CANCER!
Would you like to know how many times I have looked up cancer on the Internet? Zero. I am not going down that rabbit hole. I am not going to spend my remaining days trying one remedy after another. I would rather spend that time sorting through thousands of articles, videos, and other websites watching my seven-year-old play her piano, recording goodbye messages, or any other task that does not involve cancer.
Cancer is going to kill me; I am not going to let it suck the life out of me too. Have I ever asked you if you have a cure for cancer? Have I ever asked you who you know with cancer? Have I even asked you if you have had cancer? No? Take the hint.
If you have a cure for my cancer, I am happy to give you Dr. Doom and Gloom’s phone number. He is an open-minded doctor; he suggested I get marijuana to give me an appetite before my chemotherapy treatments improved my taste buds. I am a control freak who has seen first-hand the way pot can rob a person of their initiative, so I am not jumping on that bandwagon. If your cure will not get me high, I am happy to hear about it from Dr. Doom and Gloom after he vets it.
I do not want to meet your sister, cousin, next-door neighbor, or whoever you know that went through cancer treatment or has stage-four cancer like me. I do not want to hear their cancer story. I do not want to hear MY cancer story. I am sure they are nice people who, if I were not dying, I would love to meet and swap war stories with, but my days are limited and reserved mostly for my family.
I am a little more tolerant if you tell me you had/have cancer and offer advice. A friend told me she did not fight her cancer and I did not understand what she meant until I had my first treatment. My chemotherapy was not terrible. Yes, I poisoned my body, but it did not make me feel terrible. I learned to enjoy my chemotherapy treatments. I did not get sick from my chemotherapy, so it was easy for me to like it. I accepted and acted upon her advice because it was first-hand.
I still get emails and Facebook messages with links to articles and videos on a regular basis. I NEVER click the links. I received an email a few days ago with six links in it. Why would you think someone who has never asked you for cancer advice wants six links from you on the subject of cancer and inflammation?
My piece of advice to you is to not offer unsolicited advice. Everyone reacts to tragedy in a different manner. Other people may want to spend hours a day researching vitamins and cancer and really appreciate those six links. Ask first before you hit send. Angry Susanne out!
Until next time,
Susanne
Please check out my GoFundMe page.
Angry Susanne wrote this. -- Since I have made my cancer diagnosis public, I have been barraged by unsolicited cancer advice (most often from people who have never had cancer). I know people mean well, but I honestly do not care that Steve in Virginia (whom you do not know) used the vitamin you sell, and his prostate cancer went away.
I am not interested that frankincense reduces inflammation. I am not interested that turmeric reduces inflammation. I do not care that inflammation causes cancer and everything else that is wrong in my body. Would you like to know why I do not want your cancer treatment plan? MY LIFE DOES NOT REVOLVE AROUND CANCER!
Would you like to know how many times I have looked up cancer on the Internet? Zero. I am not going down that rabbit hole. I am not going to spend my remaining days trying one remedy after another. I would rather spend that time sorting through thousands of articles, videos, and other websites watching my seven-year-old play her piano, recording goodbye messages, or any other task that does not involve cancer.
Cancer is going to kill me; I am not going to let it suck the life out of me too. Have I ever asked you if you have a cure for cancer? Have I ever asked you who you know with cancer? Have I even asked you if you have had cancer? No? Take the hint.
If you have a cure for my cancer, I am happy to give you Dr. Doom and Gloom’s phone number. He is an open-minded doctor; he suggested I get marijuana to give me an appetite before my chemotherapy treatments improved my taste buds. I am a control freak who has seen first-hand the way pot can rob a person of their initiative, so I am not jumping on that bandwagon. If your cure will not get me high, I am happy to hear about it from Dr. Doom and Gloom after he vets it.
I do not want to meet your sister, cousin, next-door neighbor, or whoever you know that went through cancer treatment or has stage-four cancer like me. I do not want to hear their cancer story. I do not want to hear MY cancer story. I am sure they are nice people who, if I were not dying, I would love to meet and swap war stories with, but my days are limited and reserved mostly for my family.
I am a little more tolerant if you tell me you had/have cancer and offer advice. A friend told me she did not fight her cancer and I did not understand what she meant until I had my first treatment. My chemotherapy was not terrible. Yes, I poisoned my body, but it did not make me feel terrible. I learned to enjoy my chemotherapy treatments. I did not get sick from my chemotherapy, so it was easy for me to like it. I accepted and acted upon her advice because it was first-hand.
I still get emails and Facebook messages with links to articles and videos on a regular basis. I NEVER click the links. I received an email a few days ago with six links in it. Why would you think someone who has never asked you for cancer advice wants six links from you on the subject of cancer and inflammation?
My piece of advice to you is to not offer unsolicited advice. Everyone reacts to tragedy in a different manner. Other people may want to spend hours a day researching vitamins and cancer and really appreciate those six links. Ask first before you hit send. Angry Susanne out!
Until next time,
Susanne
Please check out my GoFundMe page.