I have created a hierarchy of tasks included in my exceptional exit plan. The most important task is creating video and written messages for my family. The second most important task is to keep my seven-year-old daughter, Mika, happy and in the dark for as long as possible. The third most important task is to build a strong base for Mika’s YouTube channel. The fourth most important task is to make sure my family has all my login information to accounts and can access any information they need. The fifth most important task is to declutter my home. Any other tasks I deem relevant are not likely to get done.
Yesterday Mika had a day off from school and I am working to have as many enjoyable experiences together while we still can. Yesterday was free day at the Colorado Springs Fine Arts Center. Mika likes the Fine Arts Center, so I invited a friend, Crystal, to meet me there with her daughters. When I invited Crystal to meet me at the Fine Arts Center, she told me about her regular Friday play date friends and proceeded to text her friend to see if her friend wanted to come with her kids.
I guess I was a little dense the day I asked Crystal (It was just a few days after Dr. Doom and Gloom told me of my impending doom.) because my takeaway was that Crystal and her kids were going with her friend and her kids to the Fine Arts Center, and Mika and I could make our own plans. I, of course, made other plans with Mika for yesterday. We would kick back at home, record the last few book-reading videos for the first season of Mika Rocks Reading, and sort some of her toys for donation, keep, or toss.
Thursday evening Crystal emailed me asking for the address of the Fine Arts Center and wanted to know if 10:30 was a good time to meet. I replied that I thought she was going with her Friday friend (Mika and I are Crystal’s occasional Monday friends.) Crystal replied back that she thought all of us were meeting. That situation made so much more sense than my takeaway.
Yesterday, Mika and I met Crystal and her daughters, and a new friend and her three children for a play date at the Fine Arts Center. The videos and toy sorting can wait; those tasks are three and five on my list. Mika and I would have a happy day with friends instead.
Our newest friends included a six-year-old girl who might be a little more active than Mika, if that is possible. I spent a lot more time telling Mika to behave than when we went alone, but she was having a good time.
We noticed a courtyard with tables for eating that Mika and I had not seen in July. Since it was sunny and not windy, after we had taken the children through the displays, we went to the courtyard to eat our lunches. The courtyard was a beautiful square with green grass in the middle, tables on the concrete square, and lots of outdoor art to be admired. The children chased each other around on the grass for almost an hour.
My piece of advice to you is to not let your feelings get hurt by misunderstandings. I could have been mad at Crystal when I thought she took my suggested play date idea to use with another friend (right in front of me). Instead, I made other plans and moved on. I was also willing to change those plans back and acknowledge my mistake. Now we have new friends we may play with when Mika has a Friday off school.
Until next time,
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